This Halloween, I enjoyed the constant parade of pictures on Facebook and Instagram of friends, family and even pets dressed up as their favorite heroes, imaginary characters and villains. Even I put on a costume and spooked my colleagues and clients when I walked into the office dressed as an Ouija board, with creepy all-white contact lenses and ghost-like makeup, looking possessed. Dressing up and pretending to be someone we’re not on All Hallows Eve is fun, but what about when we do this every day? When it comes to how we present ourselves on social media, aren’t many of us putting on some sort of mask when we post pictures of our lives and ourselves? What story are you telling? What mask are you wearing? What’s real and what’s the truth?
Because my husband Chris and I encourage our collective five kids ages 8 to 14, to be the truest version of themselves, we suggested earlier this month that they take a social media break and disconnect from their devices for a weekend. As you can imagine, they groaned, rolled their eyes and outright protested. We weren’t surprised by their reactions because we well understand that our kids’ lives are heavily influenced by their social media connections and presence. This is where they make friends, lose friends and often develop their identities. I recognize this is the world we live in, and yet my higher guidance instructs me to be cautious of the online world and also to protect my children from its power to suck them in.
I recently channeled the spirit of a young girl who died by suicide and who showed me through a series of mental movies that she’d been cyber-bullied. The group texts and nasty, online comments back and forth within her social circle had finally sent her over the edge. She’d done the only thing she could think of to escape the harassment. I’m heartbroken to say that this is not the first time I’ve channeled the spirit of a young person who made the same irreversible and fateful decision to avoid online attacks.
My own stepdaughters have shared how difficult it is to escape the pressure to “fit in” in this online world we’ve created. In their own words, they’ve admitted to wearing whatever mask will gain them acceptance or popularity. I’ve tried to help them by sharing my spiritual perspective. I’ve told that when you’re on Facebook, Instagram, etcetera, it’s so easy to get sucked in and lose yourself in other people’s worlds. Before you know it, you’re comparing your life, looks, clothes, grades and friends to everyone else and over time, you forget who YOU are. You lose the connection to yourself. And that’s the worst part because you are perfect just as you are.
We are all vulnerable to losing our internal connection. Myself included. I engage in the online world, socially and professionally, and I’ve trained myself to set boundaries around how much I tune into it because I, too, can easily get lost in other people’s perception of reality. There’s so much noise pollution all around us, and these outside voices can distract, negatively influence and pull us down the wrong path. If this happens to you, UNPLUG, take pause and seek silence. Go within. Listen to your inner voice and then follow the guidance of YOUR Truth. It’s only when we’re secure in our own truth that I recommend plugging into the online world.
YOU TRY IT! Unplug and Connect
Have honest conversations about technology and set loving boundaries for your family. Our job as parents, caregivers and mentors is to remind the young people in our lives that their worth is internal—not external—and that the voice they should listen to most closely is their own. Explain that technology isn’t bad, but that it comes with risks and therefore, the need for boundaries.
There’s no one-size-that-fits-all, so determine what boundaries work for you and your family. An hour a day? Less? More? In our house, the rule is we turn everything off by 8 o’clock. This helps with sleeping and also allows time before bed for quiet activities like personal introspection, creativity and making a connection to Spirit. Not only can you lose your sense of self and what’s true for, but also the online world disconnects you from the spirit world. The three-dimensional energy of our computers and mobile devices is dense. It absolute interferes with the fifth, sixth and beyond dimensions, where Spirit resides. So if you’re hoping to connect with your departed loved ones in your dream state, I recommend turning off your devices well before bedtime.
Whatever limit you set, use social media intentionally and be clear why you are using it. To gain or exchange information? To socially connect? To share insights, pictures or personal stories? As you engage in the online world, be mindful of any pull you have for external approval or power. Also, if you start to feel a disconnection from yourself or a desire to be different, these are your cues that it’s time to unplug, ground back into your body, YOUR truth and connection to Source.
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