When you know what you don’t want, you can become super clear on what you do want. In the contrast lies clarity. What I’ve learned from the Other Side is that an undesirable situation is often a karmic opportunity to choose again and choose differently, bringing us into greater alignment with our soul’s truth.
Let me give you a personal example where my discomfort forced a deeper awakening within… The other day I found myself cleaning up after my six kids. From backpacks to shoes left in the middle of the floor to dirty dishes on the kitchen counter and toys scattered around the living room, the house was a mess! And as I cleaned up my kids’ bad (and disrespectful) habits, I became more and more irritated.
Finally, I hit my limit and, in that minute, I became so clear on what was really bugging me. I was sick and tired of acting as their maid and even more importantly, I realized how much resentment I was building up and carrying because I hadn’t addressed the mess head on. In many ways, their mess was more about taking accountability for my own.
Your Mess is Mine
I took a mommy timeout. I prayed and meditated and gained, even more, clarity: it was time to set clear boundaries and expectations. This is my part of the deal. So, I mustered up the courage to address the kids. I gave them one final warning followed by non-negotiable consequences if they fail to honor my request. It felt a little harsh, but c’mon, it was about time! And to validate that I’d taken the right action, I instantly felt better. I’d finally spoken my truth and by doing so, I was able to shift out of resentment and into a hopeful and lighter space. I went from cursing the situation to feeling thankful for the clarity it had given me. Instead of reverting back to my old pattern of begrudgingly picking up after the kids and choosing differently this time, I’d effectively cleaned up the mess!
Spirits constantly remind me that everything that happens in our lives is an opportunity to learn. So the next time the Universe dishes up an unfavorable or uncomfortable situation, ask God and your Guides to help you see it as a gift. Remember: in the contrast lies clarity. Ask yourself, how can this experience help me become crystal clear about what I really want? When you speak your wants, desires, and truth, you begin to create the change you want and need in your life.
In my latest book What the Dead Have Taught Me About Living Well I share with you the lifelong struggle, I’ve had with voicing my truth and asking for what I want and deserve. It can be scary, but as I discovered– so empowering!
I’d love to hear about a time when you turned a “mess” into an opportunity to get more of what you want in your life. I welcome you to share your story in the comments section below.