For those of you working moms and dads out there, you may be able to relate to this very real human moment I had the other day. It has to do with the daily juggling act of all the various hats I wear from being a mom to a medium and everything in between!  With six kids in our wonderfully full and blended family, ranging from 10 months to 14 years old, there are a lot of moving parts at all times. Pair that with me being a magnet to the spirit world, and the constant bombardment of departed loved ones in desperate need of my attention, I start to feel pulled in a lot of directions. The challenge for me has been to stay out of my head and all the mind thoughts of guilt, doubt, and fear that tend to creep in, and instead shift to my higher self’s knowing that is based in truth, faith, and love.

They Signed Up For It

One huge truth I came to learn years ago from my wise and trusted guides in Spirit is this: our children have a sneak peek into the life they’re born into. In fact, they choose it, along with all the various details and conditions that will best support their life’s purpose and karmic lessons they need to learn and/or teach while in a body. That being said, our children come equipped to deal with all of life’s ups and downs, including our presence and attention (or lack of), no matter what the circumstances may be. In my case, my baby Haven knew what she was signing up for when she miraculously and surprisingly appeared in our lives less than a year ago. And kudos to her, as she’s one brave soul for choosing to come into the juicy and wild ride we are on! But reminding myself of this truth, that Haven’s soul knows her mom isn’t here to just be a mom, and she has to share me (my time, energy, and attention) with the world, acting as a bridge between heaven and Earth, has given me a deep sense of inner peace and calm.

The “Mommy” Guilt

The past several months since my new book, What The Dead Have Taught Me About Living Well, came out on Valentine’s day, I have been traveling the country every other week on my book tour. While I absolutely love the work I get to do and honored to have this incredible opportunity to share my work with clients both near and far, I’d be lying if I said it was easy or that I did not suffer from mommy guilt for being away a week at a time. It’s human nature to feel torn, confused or conflicted when it comes to having our needs met. My heart aches when I’m away from the ones I love — and it is a very real part of the human experience.

However, our souls know that the physical absence (be it in life or in death) is just an illusion, and the real love that we share with those both in a body and in Spirit is eternally with us, no matter where we are. All we need to do is go within, connect into our hearts, and send out and receive this love and light energy that transcends time and space. When I’m away from my kids or my husband, I spend extra time in prayer and meditation, first connecting to Source, as God is our only source of all love, and then silently blessing my loved ones, sending them my love and light. This practice helps me get out of my head and into my heart, to fill the void of any sadness or disconnect I may feel, and realign myself with that higher knowing that all is well and all is love.

The other day, while I was in Omaha finishing up the last leg of my book tour, I was having a moment. After getting a text from my nanny with several pictures of Haven, I realized I was carrying a lot of sadness around the fact that while away, I am missing out on these priceless moments and milestones that I can never get back. I prayed and meditated on it for an hour, followed by working on it energetically with my energy healer, Ariel, over the phone. Ariel tuned into Haven’s energy and immediately sensed that she is just fine…solid and clear and in good spirits. It was ME, and all my baggage, that was projecting it onto her and the situation, and that I had some clean-up work to do. Fair enough.

Getting Out of Your Own Way

So we cleared that guilt, sadness, and doubt and, in place, reinforced that etheric cords of love that bond our souls. I felt a thousand times lighter and freer after taking the time with the pure intention to let the rest go. Fast forward to about an hour later, I got in the car and headed out for my large audience event. My angels know me well. If they are in need of getting my attention, it is going to be through license plates, and there’s no better place than in front of one of my guilty pleasures…Starbucks! As I made a pit stop at the local Starbucks along the way, I had a double take when I saw a license plate pulling out (all perfectly and divinely timed of course!) of the parking lot that said “B HAVEN”! Baby Haven! I immediately gasped and laughed at the same time, feeling a huge sense of gratitude to my Team Spirit for bringing the experience full circle. It was the cherry on top of this soul reminder that I was exactly where I needed to be, doing what I was born to do. And, that all was well!

So the next time you may slip into your ego self, second guessing where you are, what you are doing, or feeling that you are all alone, send up a prayer and set your intention to feel fully supported by your Team Spirit. Then sit back, go with the flow, and watch as you receive your “breadcrumbs from beyond” (aka signs) to reassure that you’re never alone and all really is well when you get out of your own way!

If this speaks to you, make sure to share it with a friend and let me know your thoughts in the comments section!


  1. What a beautiful story! Thank you so much as always for sharing Rebecca. I too have had license plates but most involved states that a loved one I mourned lived in.
    I had looked up that info previously and never heard about the states being a “sign”, only words or numbers. I always believe however. One day while driving I was almost at my destination when a car passed me with the plates that said GHOST 7. There were seven letters in his name and I laughed thinking of him! Sure, the word spirit would’ve been better but I’ll take it!
    Continue to spread the light and love of all those deceased wanting to contact their loved ones here on earth. Thank you!!!!

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  2. When my husband died and my world blew up I in my job of service and working all the time and chores and mom guilt searched for peace with many energy healers and they would all say my son knew wheat he was in for and he came for me , he has no karma here. He is a elder soul, and I just have to remind and pray and believe . Stay in the light

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  3. Thank you for being so real and honest about experiencing a void and sadness. I really connect to that and am grateful for you sharing practices that help you. Blessings! Rachel

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  4. Rebecca. First off congrats on the new baby. I’m thoroughly enjoying your new book. I can’t wait till my mom Nancy Myers comes to take pictures at one of your events in California. I’ve waited a long time to meet you. I hope all is well with you. Oh and my brother in Spirit Robbie always comes through for you. I had a vision yesterday and he was in a doorway and I was trying to grab his hand and follow him to the otherside. He said” it’s not your time yet. You have to stay here. ” I doing beginning medium ship classes and meditation. I believe this is my new path.


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